Privilege, the Entertainment Industry, and What it all Means
There have been many responses to the recent BioWare story, and many of them absolutely wonderful. In fact, a great many of them have come from straight men and women wishing to point out that the “Straight Male Gamer” whom complained so vehemently to BioWare in no way represents them. What hasn’t been addressed much, is the issue of privilege itself and what it means, apart from in the excellent response from BioWare themselves. We recently stumbled across a YouTube video that addresses just that thing, which in our opinion is almost as awesome as the very story that inspired it. It turns out that the video itself was inspired by the story! [ed note: *blush*]
Privilege, sadly, is a huge issue, though often a contraversial one. The word can often be overused, and the concept can even be used as a bitter slur by those who find their selves less privileged than another. Even so, that doesn’t negate the fact of it’s existence or the impact it has.
The video comes from Warren; a 25 year old gay, transgender, married American immigrant, currently studying Biology at grad school. In it, he gives us not just an idea of what privilege is, but also an explanation of what privilege does and what it means to the people affected by it. It could easily serve as a perfect reply to Mr. Straight Male Gamer, but could likewise be applied to just about any situation. What we found especially brilliant about this video is that he also offers a suggestion as to how the absence of privilege and a sense of automatic entitlement can actually, in some ways, lead to a richer life. He also reminds us of the many groups whom are affected by it, including the little discussed negative affect it can sometimes have on those that hold it their selves.
Put simply, privilege is the power we don’t know we have. It’s the choices and options that we take for granted while others cannot. It’s the mastery of our own freedoms and destinies that we assume as normal, often without ever realising that others simply don’t have the same rights or abilities by the simple circumstances of their existence.
As ever, and as Warren even requests, please feel free to leave your thoughts.

I started out a while back, being very frustrated with Disney of all things, and children’s entertainment in general because aside from Glee, there is no show which has teenagers as their target demographic has any LGBTQIA characters. Even the Sarah Jane Smith Adventures only features straight characters.
But warren is right, even when you have “The Kids are All Right”, its almost a spectacle rather than a real movie, and its still 1 out of a 100 hollywood blockbusters this year!
Harry Potter is a good example, a book in which prejudice is hit head on, where quality of the person is far more important than what the person is, and what did we get? a single token gay character who’s love was disastrous. Just to add insult to injury JK Rowling hid that fact from the readers until after the book was released.
There’s an analogy i was thinking about, with being vegetarian, where normally if you are lucky, you go to a restaurant if you are lucky you’ll find a *Generic Pasta Dish* or other badly thought out token dish. Going to a proper vegan/vegetarian restaurant is the closest i’ve felt to having the same “privilege” as a meat eater or straight white man. (I know vegetarianism is a choice, but the analogy still stands)
This is remarkable, Warren. I’ve thought about these issues, have reflected on privilege, but I’ve never heard it framed quite this way — and this well. Bravo. I’m sharing this.
As somebody that has had many a conversation on privilege with many people, I have to say that I completely agree with you here. Remarkable is a very good word to describe it.
I’ve just been Facebooking and Tweeting this post in conjunction with this link to an awesome essay called “Being Female,” by poet Eileen Myles: http://vidaweb.org/being-female
What Warren says about the art/entertainment options for marginalized people reminded me of this bit from Myles’s essay: “So the poetry world is in effect performing a kind of affirmative action for men by giving their work a big push ahead, celebrating men’s books at a much higher ratio to the amount and quality of work actually being produced. And I’m not entertaining for a moment that this is because male work is better. I’m female, and I don’t so much think female work is better. Female reality is not better. But female reality has consumed male reality abundantly [...] female reality always contains male and female. That seems interesting as hell [...] Female reality (and this goes for all the “other” realities as well—queer, black, trans, everyone else) is more interesting because it is wider, more representative of humanity—it’s definitely more stylistically various because of all it has to carry and show.”
Thanks for the awesome video, Warren!
When I played Dragon Age 2, there was one aspect of the romanctic options that particularly blew my mind.
I played my gay male version of Hawke (the game’s protagonist) when I ran into Anders (one of the love interests) and flirted with him. Later I met Fenris, and he too was interested. This put me in a strange situation that I’ve never encountered in a game before.
For the first time, I had a choice.
This has NEVER happened to me in a game before. I was so used to having, AT MOST, one love interest. Even then, there tends to be strings attached. The gay love interest isn’t as developed a character as the straight counterpart, or the love scene involving him fades to black whereas the straight variants are shown (assuming you’re even ALLOWED to be intimate with the gay love interest in the first place).
Even with all that, I can count on my hands the number of games I’ve played that featured a gay male love interest (interestingly enough, the majority of them are Bioware games).
Here, I could choose. Better yet, each of my options had actual merits. They had personalities and problems of their own, and each brought their own baggage to the relationship. It was a very wonderful, very RARE experience.
So when people like “straight male gamer” complain that the game is a sausage-fest because, “oh dear, a dude might actually FLIRT with me! Eeew. get it away!” I have no pity for that person. “Boo hoo,” I say. “Welcome to my world,” I say.
How many times have I had the exact same problem that they’re complaining about? Nearly every (expletive deleted) game that features a romance I have to put up with a (expletive deleted) story created just for THEM! I don’t complain when it happens and I learn to appreciate the story regardless. So when those (expletive–oh, screw it!) guys whine because a gay man talked to them and now they feel dirty, it’s all I can do to rein in my temper lest I be forced to kill again.
I may disagree with some of Bioware’s game-design choices, but because they gave me what no other game developer has before (a choice), they have my support.
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