in my previous coenmmt, our eldest son (now in his twenties) was very in to dressing up as a woman, and other feminine things, from a very early age. We never really thought about any link between this and his sexuality. It seems odd to say that, but it’s true, and it wasn’t because we were trying to avoid anything, It was just how he was.He came out to us when he was 13. We weren’t really prepared for it, but quickly came to terms with it. There is no doubt that his teenage years were hard at times. He was bullied and had to change schools, and this still leaves scars on him (and to a much lesser extent on us). But I would say that in the UK being gay is easier now than it used to be. Many teenagers seem to go through a remarkable transition from extreme hostility to the very notion of being gay early on in their teens to complete acceptance just a couple of years later. I would like to think that the love and stability we gave our son at home helped him ride out those tough years. I completely agree with the sentiments in your post about not wanting either of your sons to be gay. Nobody would choose a harder life for their children. But I would also agree very strongly with the thoughts of the It Gets Better movement. For our son, it has. Much better.I can also sympathise with your thoughts about Christianity. My wife is a committed Christian. I’m not, but attend church with her sometimes and agree with many of the values. Reconciling the sometimes very disappointing (or indeed, much worse) attitude of many Christians, and the organised church in particular, to gender and sexuality issues, and her love for her son, has been hard for my wife. It seems so strange that a movement based so much on love can sometimes show so little.I think the approach you are taking with your son is entirely right, and if there are tough times ahead, I am sure your love and deep thoughtfulness will be equipping you all to face them as well as anything could.This is a wonderful blog and I wish you well.PS hope I haven’t posted this three times bit of trouble with the WordPress account!