A letter to religious people on the eternal struggle of good vs evil.
The battle is eternal, you are right about that, but its not the battle you think, you are not the protagonist in the most important cause in human history, you are just a lowly soldier marching to the beat of fear, of ignorance and hate.
Sometimes the darkness wins some battles, when everything good we’ve achieved is brought to ash, stories of that are woven through our mythology, the Flood, Babel, Atlantis, the Fall, Ragnarok, even Sodom and Gomorrah. Your storytellers have always tried to make it out that they are stories of punishment, of victory of good vs evil, but they can’t hide what they really mean.
The stories are not about destruction and punishment, they are about change, death and rebirth, which is a very human concept.
When the first city fell, if your ideas had their way, we would have never thought about learning or progress again, but within a hundred years of each other Egypt, Mesopotamia and the Indus Valley civilisations blossomed into life. Even when you destroyed Rome, less than 2000 years later, using a shoestring calculator and hydrogen/oxygen deathtrap this little fallen species visited another world.
There will always be the ignorant, the fearful, and sometimes they might find ways to bring us down. But for the next 1000 generations, anyone who can build a telescope and look up into the sky, will see a flag flying there, left by a people who took the forbidden fruit and went to the stars with it.
The Secretary General steps up.
There are days in this world that will be remembered, yesterday was the day that Thatcher died, leaving us at the mercy of her bastard stepchildren, but today I hope will have significance, because the Secretary General of the United Nations has made it clear that no country can justify homophobia or transphobia, even if their culture demands it.
Yes for the most part he’s the head of a minarchist government of squabbling childish nations, but his voice does have weight, it does have power, and when you have Iran, Egypt and Russia all trying to block basic human protections for their queer citizens, its telling that he refused to take the middle road.
What Maggie did to Me
I grew up lucky, there’s no other way to describe my circumstances, I got all the advantages of being the child of two long term middle class families (with a touch of aristocracy thrown into the mix). There’s no-one in my family I can think of who suffered unduly financially because of Thatcher’s policies, and I’m fairly certain that we probably benefited in many ways from her ruthless policies.
So unlike many of the people in my life today, I grew up being told of all the good work that Thatcher did, how it was the socialists who were the boogeyman threatening to drag us back into the dark and fear. So as one of those who grew into adulthood in a post-thatcher world, what do I as an individual (no caring for our fellow britons after all) have to complain about…
Well actually Thatcher was not “mostly harmless” to me and my family…. because she was a homophobic bigot of the order that Christian Institute members have hot sweaty “sinful incidents” about.
Today we think of the current queer rights movement as scarily young, and most of us wish we could have started out at schools like those that exist in 2013, not those that existed 1986 as I did. I grew up in terror, in fear that people would work out I was different, and not just in the obvious socially awkward introverted ways that were all people saw of me.
I didn’t get the chance to be who I was at school, I never got to explore being what a teenager was, I didn’t even get the chance to explore at university, because everything that mattered about me, was strangled, gutted, and buried under a concrete slab of self loathing and fear. It wasn’t just the legal framework, it was the social climate that she reflected, embraced, and promoted, one in which I had no right to exist.
There’s a lie I told above, that the queer rights movement is “scarily young”, it actually became something important and world changing more than a decade before I was born, when young queer people braver than I am said they were not going to be trodden on any more. The first move for marriage equality in the US was submitted to the supreme court 2 years after Loving vs Virginia was handed down, In politics Harvey Milk and a few others overcame huge hurdles and fought off the homophobic backlash levelled at them. When the British Gov’t had determined finally that decriminalising homosexuality was right, the Archbishop of Canterbury at the time (in the 1950s no less) said it was immoral to prosecute people for their inbuilt nature, so our generation did not need to be one that lived under the shadow of institutional homophobia.
Then came HIV, a new kind of virus, never documented before, slow, silent, invisible, deadly, and transmitted only by the most personal and intimate of connections… it ravaged communities who thought that the era of disease was over, and into this age of paranoia and misinformation stepped two cowards, named Reagan and Thatcher. What was needed was for these supposedly iron backbone politicians was to be leaders, to tell the truth, and to remove the fear and ignorance, but of course they both fed it.
With Reagan, while courting the evangelical hate, he purposefully ignored the situation. He refused to address or act on what was known while thousands died and hundreds of thousands more got infected. What Thatcher did, was far far worse. She attacked every single queer person in Britain for daring to exist, then she heaped on more bile and rhetoric before her coup de grace, section 28. This was a bill that made “don’t say gay” in Tennessee or Henepin County’s “neutrality” policy look like positively queer friendly policies, and I and so many like me still feel the scars because of it.
Now I’ve seen some people attempt to defend her, by claiming she had no choice, or she didn’t know better, but these fly in the face of two undeniable facts about her.
Throughout her prime ministerial career she never did things for political expediency, she never changed her course because it was inconvenient or hard, and this is something that people laud about her, so either she was a hate filled bigot acting on principle, or on gay rights she abandoned her backbone and kowtowed to the homophobes in her party.
Secondly one thing you could never accuse Thatcher of being was ignorance, she was stone cold brilliant, she was a grocers daughter who went to Oxford in 1943, which was hardly a bastion of feminism or egalitarianism at the time. You are left with trying to explain how someone who should and could have known better gave into her inner homophobia and unleashed it on a vulnerable population.

Now maybe even in a world in which Thatcher wasn’t an ignorant bigot on queer issues, I wouldn’t have had an easy ride being open as me at school in the 90s, but maybe I would have been strong enough to walk along a hard road, rather than the impossible road she turned it into.
So this is why, even if I were one of Thatcher’s bastard stepchildren, embracing the self serving vicious Randian policies she implemented, I would still loathe her for the harm she did not need to do to people like me.
But its not the 1980s any more, and I’m here, I’m really me, I have a good job, I have someone in my life who makes me very happy and I’m surrounded by amazing queer people who flourished in-spite of . My future is bright, and full of hope, and Thatcher and her hate filled social policies are dead, and soon to be buried.
Greta Christina on sexuality and atheism
A couple of years ago I wrote about the Day of Dialogue, an effort by the Focus on the Family group to fight back against the Day of Silence.
I was talking about what could be said back to those christian school children who are parotting hate and bile towards people, but I finished off with this paragraphy about what the queer movement had to offer those who are bigotted on sexual issues.
Its not just about us, its about freeing them from the artificial constraints that they are forced into. The sheer madness of the situation is actually thrown into sharp relief with the legal prostitution that occurs in Iran, where a helpful iman grants marriages between client and sex worker, who after “sharing the marital bed” divorce using the “I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you” method, and leave. Sex is meant to be between consenting adults, and freedom from religious views on sex is something of what we offer. … and holding it back because of some strange ideas about criminalizing intimacy only being allowed during marriage, is lunacy.
Here’s Greta Christina’s talk on atheism and sexuality, which I thought was rather applicable to those ideas I was trying to express.
Be the person you would be travelling with a madman in a box.
So I was musing about the “No Atheists in a Bolt Hole” fallacy, and I realised that I might still be a devout agnostic in a bolt hole, I know which fictional deity I would hope might spring into reality.
Then I thought about what said deity might say on the subject of a decalogue, and here is what I thought he might say.
1. Bow Ties are Cool.
2. Fez’s are Cooler.
3. Stay out of trouble.
4. Time is not the boss of you.
5. When you know, you know.
6. Put down that gun.
7. You’re brilliant.
8. Live each day as though it could be the day.
9. Never stop asking.
10. Be the person you would be travelling with a madman in a box.
That is all.
Sometimes we have to lay things out
I was getting fed up of being told of the “love” for me and mine homophobic christians have for us.
This was my response.
This new claimed view of gay people is very young, but we remember the doors being broken down, we remember the prisons, we remember the noose, the stake, we remember the purges, the lost loves, the children stolen from our homes.
Uganda is the true face of christian hate for us, behind the nice suits, the polished slick lies of love and compassion, we know we risk our deaths if we ever let down our guards.
Maybe I could have been a little bit cooler headed, but sometimes we have to say what we know to be true.
Lamda Legal Documentary on the Lawrence vs Texas
Just came across this. I wasn’t out even to myself in 2003, so it didn’t strike me at the time how earth-shatteringly significant it was at the time.
Certainly brought a tear to my eye…
Trans Voices Respond To Julie Burchill
Just thought this was worth posting.
Responding to a NOM-proxy, introduction
So on an off chance I followed a link posted by Brian Brown claiming to discredit every single argument for for marriage equality. I wrote long response to each of the points, which a lot of people responded rather well to, so I thought I’d try to turn it into an article.
However there’s a lot of content which I want to deal with so if you’ll excuse a few articles in quick succession, I’m going to address each point, and write a response to it.
Here’s the list of “defeated” arguments, and as I put up each article, I’ll update the links.
- Marriage has evolved throughout history, so it can change again.
- Same-sex marriage is primarily about equality.
- Everyone has the right to marry whomever he or she loves.
- Same-sex marriage won’t affect you, so what’s the big deal?
- Same-sex marriage will not lead to other redefinitions.
- If same-sex couples can’t marry because they can’t reproduce, why can infertile couples marry?
- Children will not be affected since there is no difference between same-sex parents and opposite-sex parents.
- Opposition to same-sex marriage is based on bigotry, homophobia and religious hatred.
- The struggle for same-sex marriage is just like the civil rights movement of the 1960s.
- Same-sex marriage is inevitable, so we should stand on the right side of history.
If you want to read the original article, its here.
Of course the simple idea that I want to marry the woman I love and spend the rest of my life with her is never addressed beyond being told that desire is disgusting and immoral.
Repressing Feelings
I heard a response to the public awareness given to that group made up of a mix of con artists, and those who actually want LGBT people to commit suicide (metaphysically or physically), known as the “Ex-Gay” movement. The suggestion this individual said, was that treating being LGBT was like alcoholism, and those feelings should be repressed.
This was my response
Imagine someone insisting that you never do something natural like smiling, because its sinful, and any inclination to smile should be ignored, and any time you give into the urge you should feel intensely guilty. Being attracted to someone of the same sex is as natural and normal as smiling, and there is nothing wrong with acting on those feelings.
Stop a Bigot becoming the new Archbishop of Canterbury


Justin Welby has played into the same twisted logic that allowed separate drinking fountains, and has opposed the basic civil right of lesbian and gay couples to be married under British Law.
As someone who still sees the Church of England as a venerable and important institution that needs help to move forward, I call on David Cameron to rescind his nomination and apologise for it.
I also feel that as a branch of christianity that represents a nobler and enlightened proclamation, its a vital counterpoint to the hate-filled and perverted fundamentalist christianities found in the US and elsewhere. This is not an attack on the church, this is an effort to save it.
So I ask you all to sign this petition.
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News Feed for 2012-10-03
- Former Irish President condemns the immoral catholic church on its atrocious attacks on LGBT people http://t.co/1fex7dPP #
- Labour retakes the moral high ground on marriage equality, calling for sooner, and open to religious ceremonies http://t.co/0sjrWg6b #
- British Counselling body cautions against its members using toxic “gay cure” methods on patients http://t.co/zi4QlR6b #
- Joyce Banda chickens out on efforts to stop persecuting her LGBT citizenry http://t.co/bOpB8b9X #
- Rowan Williams admits that the Church of England has hurt LGBT ppl while quitting to leave homophobic Sentamu in charge http://t.co/KVLKdcTO #
- Vote this november FOR marriage equality (and against its chief opponent Mitt Romney) http://t.co/rCM3UBdN #
- Looking for inspiration to start writing again: http://t.co/bhAVEDaz #
- Vote this november FOR marriage equality (and against its chief opponent Mitt Romney) http://t.co/rCM3UBdN #
- Opposition to marriage equality, finally brings presbyterian and catholic irish together in hate http://t.co/FbIxgn0V #
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News Feed for 2012-10-03
- Former Irish President condemns the immoral catholic church on its atrocious attacks on LGBT people http://t.co/1fex7dPP #
- Labour retakes the moral high ground on marriage equality, calling for sooner, and open to religious ceremonies http://t.co/0sjrWg6b #
- British Counselling body cautions against its members using toxic “gay cure” methods on patients http://t.co/zi4QlR6b #
- Joyce Banda chickens out on efforts to stop persecuting her LGBT citizenry http://t.co/bOpB8b9X #
- Rowan Williams admits that the Church of England has hurt LGBT ppl while quitting to leave homophobic Sentamu in charge http://t.co/KVLKdcTO #
- Vote this november FOR marriage equality (and against its chief opponent Mitt Romney) http://t.co/rCM3UBdN #
- Looking for inspiration to start writing again: http://t.co/bhAVEDaz #
- Vote this november FOR marriage equality (and against its chief opponent Mitt Romney) http://t.co/rCM3UBdN #
- Opposition to marriage equality, finally brings presbyterian and catholic irish together in hate http://t.co/FbIxgn0V #
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Looking for inspiration to start writing again
I’ve kind of let my writing on here languish a bit, and I’m wanting to change that.
In an effort to inspire myself, I went back and found some of the bits i’ve written that I’m proud of.

I am Gemma
Being Me
Symbols
US Politics
- Put the Hyde Amendment back on the negotiating block
- Why Military Chaplains need to either Shut-Up or get out of the Service
- I think the Right Wing has a point about President Obama
- Now if you go to the Doctor, they have to do their job(mostly)
Corporations
Queer Activism
- Gay Marriage will lead to Polyamorous marriages
- A Day of despair when we need a day of hope
- Denying LGBTQIA conservatives the right to be conservative
- I’m not a “Good Queer”
- What does today mean for the most oppressed minority in Egypt
- Lost in the world of Shrimp, Slavery, Sumptary clothes, Paul and Marcion…
- I’m not a good queer
Gender Politics
Finally This was the article I had in mind when I was thinking about starting No More Lost.
News Feed for 2012-10-01
- You can no longer inflict Reparative “therapy” abuse on children in California http://t.co/uK4zddpE #
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News Feed for 2012-09-27
- Today’s Believe it or not,HK tycoon offers 40 million bounty to any man who can straighten out his married gay daughter http://t.co/Xk3DaTAO #
- Despite being a progressive state, MA is preparing to appeal against Michelle Kosilek ruling http://t.co/x2kgTgIy #transphobia #
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News Feed for 2012-09-19
- Musing about how to be a good citizen: http://t.co/6gX1xBrP #
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News Feed for 2012-09-19
- Musing about how to be a good citizen: http://t.co/6gX1xBrP #
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Musing about how to be a good citizen
Be wise, be knowledgable, be compassionate, be understanding. Know that there are things in this world you may find confusing and strange but you should not fear them just because you do not understand them. Be a good steward of the world that gave you existence, and sustains your physical and spiritual life. Love your children and accept them, no matter whether they turn out the way you’d like or not, and always put them before your beliefs.
When looking for a president look for someone who represents, a true philosopher king……not some slimy amoralist who’ll say whatever he thinks will get him elected.
News Feed for 2012-08-31
- TransMedic adds an excellent medical perspective to the medical school discrimination fracas too – http://t.co/LgsMuTTo #
- For all three complementary perspectives on the medical school story – http://t.co/LgsMuTTo – http://t.co/E8s6A504 – http://t.co/nsaIMlyt #
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News Feed for 2012-08-30
- Discrimination? You bet! What you might you expect from Warwick Medical School?: http://t.co/dZ2mVY5z #
- A horrific story of discrimination against a young med student in the UK. Is this the state medicine is in here!? http://t.co/nsaIMlyt #
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