Responding to a NOM-proxy, introduction

So on an off chance I followed a link posted by Brian Brown claiming to discredit every single argument for for marriage equality. I wrote long response to each of the points, which a lot of people responded rather well to, so I thought I’d try to turn it into an article.

However there’s a lot of content which I want to deal with so if you’ll excuse a few articles in quick succession, I’m going to address each point, and write a response to it.

Here’s the list of “defeated” arguments, and as I put up each article, I’ll update the links.

  1. Marriage has evolved throughout history, so it can change again.
  2. Same-sex marriage is primarily about equality.
  3. Everyone has the right to marry whomever he or she loves.
  4. Same-sex marriage won’t affect you, so what’s the big deal?
  5. Same-sex marriage will not lead to other redefinitions.
  6. If same-sex couples can’t marry because they can’t reproduce, why can infertile couples marry?
  7. Children will not be affected since there is no difference between same-sex parents and opposite-sex parents.
  8. Opposition to same-sex marriage is based on bigotry, homophobia and religious hatred.
  9. The struggle for same-sex marriage is just like the civil rights movement of the 1960s.
  10. Same-sex marriage is inevitable, so we should stand on the right side of history.

If you want to read the original article, its here.

Of course the simple idea that I want to marry the woman I love and spend the rest of my life with her is never addressed beyond being told that desire is disgusting and immoral.

Repressing Feelings

I heard a response to the public awareness given to that group made up of a mix of con artists, and those who actually want LGBT people to commit suicide (metaphysically or physically), known as the “Ex-Gay” movement. The suggestion this individual said, was that treating being LGBT was like alcoholism, and those feelings should be repressed.

This was my response

Imagine someone insisting that you never do something natural like smiling, because its sinful, and any inclination to smile should be ignored, and any time you give into the urge you should feel intensely guilty. Being attracted to someone of the same sex is as natural and normal as smiling, and there is nothing wrong with acting on those feelings.

Enough with the transphobia, from supposedly progressive states

So Michelle Kosilek after winning a victory for access to medical care under the 8th amendment, has had her win stayed, by the same justice (Mark Wolf) who originally ruled in her favor.

I’ve heard a lot of commentary from some supposed allies (Barney Frank for one) who’ve displayed some atrocious and transphobic opinions on the matter of whether Michelle has a right to surgery, on the basis of her crimes denying her the right to medical care.

Now I have a problem with this on two fronts, firstly that its a denial of care to a transperson, irrespective of their character. She is someone who violently murdered her spouse and deserves to spend the rest of her days in prison, but she also has a right under the 8th amendment to the appropriate medical care. I would argue that a serial rapist/murderer should get heart surgery or other life saving procedures they needed, because thats what our justice system demands. However because its a transperson, their lifesaving procedures don’t matter…There are hundreds of transpeople in prison who are denied care because its politically acceptable to be transphobic in this area, even if you are a progressive democrat.

The second front I have issue with is that it sets a precedent outside the prison system, that if the government rejects the reality of the lifesaving nature of GRS, and effectively argues that its cosmetic or unnecessary, then what’s to stop employers and insurers from claiming the same thing, using the court decisions as the basis for rejection.

Maybe the later aspect is a bit paranoid, but given the behaviour of supposedly transgender allies in this case, and those women and men who vitally need this care in prison and are denied it, forgive me if I’m more than a little wary…

Stop a Bigot becoming the new Archbishop of Canterbury

No Honour, No Power, No Pointy Hat, Block the Bigot (Justin Welby), Save Canterbury

Justin Welby has played into the same twisted logic that allowed separate drinking fountains, and has opposed the basic civil right of lesbian and gay couples to be married under British Law.

As someone who still sees the Church of England as a venerable and important institution that needs help to move forward, I call on David Cameron to rescind his nomination and apologise for it.

I also feel that as a branch of christianity that represents a nobler and enlightened proclamation, its a vital counterpoint to the hate-filled and perverted fundamentalist christianities found in the US and elsewhere. This is not an attack on the church, this is an effort to save it.

So I ask you all to sign this petition.

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News Feed for 2012-10-03

  • Former Irish President condemns the immoral catholic church on its atrocious attacks on LGBT people http://t.co/1fex7dPP #
  • Labour retakes the moral high ground on marriage equality, calling for sooner, and open to religious ceremonies http://t.co/0sjrWg6b #
  • British Counselling body cautions against its members using toxic “gay cure” methods on patients http://t.co/zi4QlR6b #
  • Joyce Banda chickens out on efforts to stop persecuting her LGBT citizenry http://t.co/bOpB8b9X #
  • Rowan Williams admits that the Church of England has hurt LGBT ppl while quitting to leave homophobic Sentamu in charge http://t.co/KVLKdcTO #
  • Vote this november FOR marriage equality (and against its chief opponent Mitt Romney) http://t.co/rCM3UBdN #
  • Looking for inspiration to start writing again: http://t.co/bhAVEDaz #
  • Vote this november FOR marriage equality (and against its chief opponent Mitt Romney) http://t.co/rCM3UBdN #
  • Opposition to marriage equality, finally brings presbyterian and catholic irish together in hate http://t.co/FbIxgn0V #

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News Feed for 2012-10-03

  • Former Irish President condemns the immoral catholic church on its atrocious attacks on LGBT people http://t.co/1fex7dPP #
  • Labour retakes the moral high ground on marriage equality, calling for sooner, and open to religious ceremonies http://t.co/0sjrWg6b #
  • British Counselling body cautions against its members using toxic “gay cure” methods on patients http://t.co/zi4QlR6b #
  • Joyce Banda chickens out on efforts to stop persecuting her LGBT citizenry http://t.co/bOpB8b9X #
  • Rowan Williams admits that the Church of England has hurt LGBT ppl while quitting to leave homophobic Sentamu in charge http://t.co/KVLKdcTO #
  • Vote this november FOR marriage equality (and against its chief opponent Mitt Romney) http://t.co/rCM3UBdN #
  • Looking for inspiration to start writing again: http://t.co/bhAVEDaz #
  • Vote this november FOR marriage equality (and against its chief opponent Mitt Romney) http://t.co/rCM3UBdN #
  • Opposition to marriage equality, finally brings presbyterian and catholic irish together in hate http://t.co/FbIxgn0V #

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Looking for inspiration to start writing again

I’ve kind of let my writing on here languish a bit, and I’m wanting to change that.

In an effort to inspire myself, I went back and found some of the bits i’ve written that I’m proud of.

I am Gemma on No More Lost

I am Gemma

Being Me

Symbols

US Politics

Corporations

Queer Activism

Gender Politics

Finally This was the article I had in mind when I was thinking about starting No More Lost.

The daily torment of more than a million american children